Pretending to love the poor half a world away is a common problem, especially in an age where everyone is trying to signal their virtue. Like the old saying goes, “Everyone wants to save the world, but no one wants to do the dishes.” Nowadays, it can be properly modified to say:
Everyone wants to post pictures and memes about saving the world, but no one wants to do the dishes.
This is just a slight intensification.
Both NN Taleb in his Skin in the Game and C.S. Lewis in his Screwtape Letters highlighted the phenomenon.
Continue reading Pretend Benevolence and the Code of the Coward
Raising children is all about faith, because ultimately, you cannot control what they do.
No matter what you have taught them, no matter how you have disciplined them, no matter how good an example you have set (and let’s be honest, none of us do any of those three things perfectly), your children can choose to turn from the path on which you have tried to set them.
That’s terrifying. It can be disheartening.
Continue reading Prayerful Parenting – Don’t Forget Sunlight
Just say thanks. This is one exercise in the Dale Carnegie Training seminar that has stuck with me for nearly two decades. Each person in the group took a turn to just sit there. Everyone else then gave them a compliment. After each one, all you had to do was say “thank you.” That’s it.
It’s harder than it sounds, and that’s why it was a full exercise. People need the practice.
Continue reading Just Shut Up…and Say Thanks
I’ve had the blessing and privilege of working from home for over 5 years now, and most of that time, we have also homeschooled our kids. So, while everyone else is adjusting to the new circumstances of attempting to slow down a pandemic, I’m in the curious situation of not having anything change much from my normal day to day.
Here are some tips based on the things I have learned. I’m not perfect, and so I don’t follow these tips 100% of the time myself, but when I do, my quality of life has been much, much higher.
Continue reading Tips for Working From Home (with Kids)
Spoilers below, for the 3 people on the planet who have not read Harry Potter.
At the end of Harry Potter and the Goblet of Fire, we have the climactic scene of Voldemort’s reconstitution, and his attempted killing of Harry Potter. This is the moment where the series takes its darker turn: a fellow student is dead, the main villain, who has been a mere shadow in the distance, has regained his powers, and Harry himself is on the brink of being another victim.
Continue reading J.K. Rowling Understands the Gravitas of Fatherhood